After a one-year stint in Taiwan, top Cantopop starlet Fiona Sit is back in town and starring in the new drama “Last Smile, First Tear.” She opens up to June Ng about success, love, her lesbian friends, and how not to get the attention of someone you admire.

I have problems communicating with people because I don’t have siblings. Single children always have weird communication skills because we had no one to fight with at home.

I’m bad at chit-chat. I find it odd to ask things like, “have you eaten yet?” and, “what have you been up to?” when I’m not interested at all. But now that I’ve been in show business for several years, my conversation skills have improved.  

I might seem rude at first. But I really don’t understand how people can talk like they’ve known each other for years when they’re barely acquaintances. 

I dislike conformity. Even in high school, when all other girls rolled up their dresses to make them shorter, mine were always longer than everyone else’s. I don’t give in to peer pressure.

I’m very shy. I like to live in my own world.  I joined the choir in high school, but I was too afraid to become a soloist because they test you in front of the whole class. I tried once, but I couldn’t make a sound. 
My personality isn’t really suited to show business—I really care about my privacy, but it’s been invaded so much. I’m only partly happy with my current career.

The press pry so much into my love life. Before they took pictures of me going out with men, they said I was a lesbian. But I’m straight. I worry that my reputation might be tarnished and I won’t be able to get married in the future.

My sexual preferences shouldn’t have to be clarified because of paparazzi pictures of me with my girl friends or lesbian friends. Saying that we’re not in a relationship is enough.

What’s so disgraceful about being a lesbian anyway? I don’t think it should be an issue. Some people are only attracted to men, some only to women. What’s there to debate?

All that matters is love, regardless of gender. Don’t worry about what kind of gender you prefer; instead, think about how faithful you should be to your lover.

Love is like food to me. It sustains me.

It takes up a large part of my brain and my heart. But I’ve been starving for four and-a-half years.

I want a boyfriend, but it’s so hard to find a nice guy. I would love to have someone to comfort me after work, but I want to be in a relationship with him because I love him, not because I’m lonely and in need of a companion.

I don’t aim high because I don’t want to be disappointed. My career goals are really narrow.

Go step-by-step and you will eventually get to the top. If you fail, then that’s fate.

The bottle assault doesn’t bother me now. When the man threw it at me while I was on stage, it hit my brow and it swelled up half an inch immediately. At the time I panicked because I thought my eye was injured, but I’m fine now.

He was a fan of mine, so I don’t really understand why he would do that. Maybe he wanted to get my attention, but he did it in a wrong way.

Everybody should be more positive and loving, and think twice before saying or doing anything.

People love rumors, and love spreading them. Some do it to hurt other people, but some just love it as an end in itself. My father taught me never to repeat what you hear about other people. It’s extremely useful advice, especially for show business.